To Love is To Be Vulnerable

“To love is to be vulnerable,” wrote C.S. Lewis in The Four Love.

Our society tends to view vulnerability as a weakness.

People tends to speak the easy way, and at times the voice inside your head joins too.

“Conceal your vulnerability, hence you are strong,” they say.

“Take it easy. Stay quiet. Don’t share stories, experiences, nor ideas.”

“No one is really paying attention. Your struggle is useless, people won’t change. Your effort only makes you weary.”

“So you’ll keep trying, huh? Good luck, you’ll give up in the end anyway.”

“Don’t show those things. You’ll expose yourself. People will know that you are vulnerable inside.”

Yet, the people we admire usually are the most vulnerable ones.

They are vulnerable because they face uncertainty.

They are vulnerable because they take risk

They are vulnerable i

Vulnerability is the essence of feeling. We expose ourselves. Hence in loving, we need to be vulnerable.

As Brene Brown writes in Daring Greatly.

“Waking up every day and loving someone

who may or may not love us back,

whose safety we can’t ensure,

who may stay in our lives or may leave without a moment’s notice,

who may be loyal to the day they die or betray us tomorrow—

that’s vulnerability.

Love is uncertain. It’s incredibly risky.

And loving someone leaves us emotionally exposed.

Yes, it’s scary

and yes, we’re open to being hurt,

but can you imagine your life without loving or being loved?”

There is no certainty in loving other human being—in loving the creation. “Thou is love, the suffer has no ending,” spelled Commodore Tian Feng.

The only love we can depend on comes from Our Creator. “If you love Me by walking, I hall love you by running,” He Says.

Yet, The Cherisher of the world veil Himself from us. if He accept our love, He will give the best scene as the ending in our life. Till that moment comes right after us, we are very vulnerable to His love.

Yet, He never fails His promise.  That is the only thing we can be sure of. To vulnerably love Him is the only thing we can do to beg for His love, to ask for His forgiveness.

Yet, it is still enticing to love other human being.

Exciting.

Infatuating.

Thrilling.

Love is a humanity heroine. 

It makes us beg, it makes us plead.

Therefore, our love to other human has border. Or, the love will enslave us.

We need a solemn Convenant—mitsaqan ghalizha. A promise called marriage.

Make the promise, then be vulnerable.

As a husband, it is an everyday work to be vulnerable to her.

As a wife, it is an honor to be vulnerable to him.

Be vulnerable!

She needs you to spell her the magic words. Tell her “I love you” every single day.

He needs you to rest his ego on your lap. Show him how he has given the best effort every time he comes home.

Tomorrow is your day. Be vulnerable to each other for the rest of your life.

As this promise called marriage is an important milestone for each of you.

Both of you will help each other to make each soul become the most vulnerable one to the Master of All Love.

Happy marriage Ihsan & Dania! To marry is to be vulnerable!